Hey it’s Kris,
I have something to admit… I have a temper. I’ve been very irritable lately, and it’s probably coming from another serious problem. Can’t say for sure (depression?) I’ve been able to successfully keep myself from hurting others for a long, long time. Probably a few years, and no seriously attacking somebody (maybe a little less, but its been a while).
I want to say that it’s easy to control your damn temper, but it’s not always. Here are a few ways I’ve successfully kept myself from hurting others until today:
- Think of the punishments
- Knowing what I really want – peace, and fun
- There’s no real reason to be angry a lot of the time
- Knowing that it’s okay to feel relaxed with certain people
- Ignore them (works unless the person is persistent)
- Listen to my iPod – calming songs, and words, DO NOT play angry songs – you’ll just feel angrier
- Sports/physical activities
And some of the things that have made me feel weaker as a man… Hmm – well,
- I walk away! Some people think I’m a wussy for just leaving, but really, I know it won’t make things any better – I’ll just get in trouble for beating someone up… This is the SINGLE BEST SOLUTION
- (Variation of above) I separate myself – sometimes it’s not entirely possible to leave. So I just put myself in another room, or go across the room to get away from it all
- Hang out with people who I enjoy hanging out with. This one is very effective, if I’m happy, I’m not angry. Simple as that.
I really hate walking away sometimes… Sometimes I just want to fight, but I know better than to be doing that.
So, here’s what happened to me today:
I was just in math class, and I was enjoying myself reasonably well. I was talking to my awesome friend, Henry, and we chatted it up. Then another friend (won’t mention his name) tells me he’s seen my site, and stuff.
Then he says something to the effect of, “What kind of narcissistic a**hole names their site ‘KrisRoxas.com’? …”
(Wow, thanks “Friend“…)
“… Just kiddingggg” in a snarky kind of way. }=\
I just try brushing it off, but he keeps mentioning stuff like this for a little while – it annoys me, and I know it. I’m glad I started avoiding him in class and talked to Henry. He’s a great guy, and I can actually talk to him. This other guy is so critical, and non-supportive. He doesn’t listen!
So he ended up almost getting the living hell beat out of him. (More on this a little later – keep reading, if you wanna know more)
If you really can’t control your temper, then some clown comes around insulting you and trying to get confrontational comes around that is the LAST thing you want. Seriously, I couldn’t keep taking his cr4p – I wanted to do something.
I kept my cool, and played with my ninja star. It was a few months old (not one I just decided to throw together on the spot) and I wrote my name, and my girlfriends name on it. It was a very special star, to me… So me and Henry keep passing back & forth, trying to catch it with one hand – and it keeps going everywhere.
One throw goes towards the guy I lost my temper at, and he says, “If you throw that at me one more time I’m gonna’ break it.”
I say, “If you break it, I’m going to kick you as*!”
Other guy, “Oh yeah, ‘you’re gonna kick my as*’.”
Kris, “*errrrr*”
And anyways, after a while of passing back & forth an Indian kid (literally from India) wants to see the star. And guess what… He throws it at the Other Guy. Great – I know what’s going to happen. And I don’t hesitate to walk up to him – I keep up to him, and he bites it apart. Growling.
I f*cking lost it, and I start to twist his arm, and drag his body closer so I can give him a cantene. (Front choke-hold, with a twist). I almost do it until I strangle him, then I drop it…
I won’t go into much more. But I did get told to be sent home.
I had considerably less self-control, but now I’m allowed special privileges? Kind of makes sense, but the solution they gave me was that I was able to leave the classroom in case I get angry (so I don’t hurt people). This sounds more like a band-aid, but a very nice one. I’ll take it.
-Kris
How bad is your temper? Do you have any trouble controlling it? Do you have any Tips (maybe even a little criticism…) for helping control your temper? Or even any Stories would be great.
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